By Wayne Weiner, D.Ed.
In my years as a coach, author, and consultant, I’ve met countless people from all walks of life and cultures, each with unique experiences and values. And yet, there’s one attribute that stands out and transcends boundaries: being a “solid” person. When I think of a solid person, I think of individuals who remain steady, are genuinely trustworthy, and show up in life with unwavering integrity. They see your flaws and like you anyhow, knowing that imperfection is part of what makes us human. My Grandmotherwas, my sister, and my wife are. But how exactly do we define such people across cultures, and why does their influence hold such power?
What Makes a Person “Solid”?
A solid person, to put it simply, is someone you can rely on even in the most challenging circumstances. They’re the ones who don’t flinch at your mistakes or leave when times are tough; instead, they support, encourage, and give feedback without judgment. They aren’t afraid of holding up a mirror to your flaws because they know these qualities don’t detract from your value.
I recall a colleague and friend, Dr. Joan Jones who always met people with an open mind and empathy, even when they had opposing views. She’d look at the individual, not the situation, and her words had a grounding effect. She saw not only the best in people but also their rough edges and, importantly, didn’t dismiss them for it.
Let’s not forget my golf buddies and their wives. When we are together honesty, and solid advice is in the air.
“Solid” Across Cultures: Different Names, Same Quality
Interestingly, the idea of being solid isn’t unique to one culture. Across the globe, cultures have their own word for what we consider a solid person, yet the qualities remain similar.
Ubuntu (Southern Africa) – In Zulu and Xhosa cultures, “Ubuntu” translates to “I am because we are.” It reflects interconnectedness, compassion, and responsibility. Solid people embody Ubuntu by valuing the collective well-being and maintaining their reliability within it. Nelson Mandela, for instance, epitomized Ubuntu. Despite suffering in prison for 27 years, he emerged without bitterness, becoming a steady rock of reconciliation.
Honnête homme (France) – In French culture, a solid person is often referred to as an “honnête homme,” a concept popularized in the 17th century. This person is both honest and well-rounded, possessing a strong sense of duty. Voltaire, the French philosopher and writer, was considered an honnête homme. He used his voice for justice and fairness, never backing down from speaking truth to power—a trait that has kept his influence alive centuries later.
Kokoro no yoi hito (Japan) – In Japan, a solid person might be described as “kokoro no yoi hito,” meaning someone with a good heart. This term emphasizes the blend of moral integrity and emotional stability. Samurai values, particularly Bushido (the “way of the warrior”), held loyalty and compassion as paramount. The samurai leader Uesugi Kenshin, known for his fair treatment of allies and enemies alike, exemplified this mindset.
Steady Eddy (U.S.) – While not as poetic as some, Americans often call reliable people “Steady Eddies”—a casual way of acknowledging those who keep a level head. Theodore Roosevelt, for instance, was a Steady Eddy. He faced personal losses and political battles with tenacity, yet always found the courage to keep moving forward, inspiring a nation to take the high road.
Examples of “Solid” People in My Life
I have been blessed to encounter people who, by any culture’s standard, could be called solid. My high school football coach, Mr. Adonopolis , was one such person. He held a knack for seeing the strengths and weaknesses of each player and encouraged us to aim higher without ever tearing us down. He showed me that greatness didn’t require perfection, only persistence.
Another example is my dear friend,Dominica Roth. Dominica has been my sounding board for years. Her counsel is steady and wise, even when she has to tell me hard truths I may not want to hear. Dominica’s reliability and willingness to challenge me make her a vital figure in my life. She personifies what it means to be solid, seeing the whole person—strengths and flaws alike—and accepting them without condition.
Historical Figures Considered “Solid”
Many of history’s most enduring figures were those who refused to waiver on their values, even when their flaws were visible for all to see. Abraham Lincoln, for instance, struggled with depression and faced immense personal and political challenges. Yet, his resilience and unwavering commitment to unity during the Civil War cemented his place in history as a steady, solid leader who saw humanity even in his adversaries.
Another example is Mother Teresa, a figure of enduring compassion who, despite her own crises of faith, never wavered in her mission to help those in need. Her life was proof that one’s inner battles do not have to deter the strength of their convictions. She was as solid as they come—a constant in the lives of many who had known only hardship.
Why We Need Solid People
In a world where opinions often shift with trends and allegiances can be fickle, solid people stand as a foundation. They remind us that reliability is a virtue, and that a good friend—or mentor—is someone who can see our imperfections without it diminishing their care for us. By embracing each other’s faults and strengths, we grow stronger, more connected, and more understanding.
So, who are the solid people in your life? Seek them out and appreciate them. Chances are, they’re not flashy or boastful; they’re the quiet rock that keeps you steady, no matter the storm.
Wayne Weiner, D.Ed., is an author, philosopher, and worldwide consultant known for his innovative coaching actions. With over forty years of experience in leadership and organizational development, he has served as the director of Education at Harvard Teaching Hospital and Dartmouth Hitchcock Medical Center. He established a consulting firm that provides human resource services to federal agencies, universities, Native American communities, international corporations, and a White House cabinet member. For the past decade, he has been the Senior Leadership Consultant to the National Institutes of Health. Dr. Weiner has written 20 novels and serves on several boards. For more insights, visit Dr. Weiner’s website. drweinerinsights
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